I was born to love. I was born to give that love unconditionally. I was also born to receive that love unconditionally.
I started out by giving and receiving it fully…but as I grew, I also started noticing, how sometimes, the love given to me came with certain ,very subtle conditions.
As an adult, I realise , that that was me confusing love with approval or acceptance. True love …in all of its forms , is unconditional. It does not diminish with time , is not affected by moods, and definitely has no conditions attached to it. I came to associate ‘ love ‘ with hurt , with let downs, with pain.
I put up guards around my heart and became very ,very careful with who I allowed in and more importantly, who I gave my love to ,without worrying about how they could use it to hurt me. That was( ironically) me, putting so many conditions to that very love that I was born to give and receive freely.
As I grew in awareness, I slowly and painfully understood the difference between my limited , fearful concept of love and the real magnificient , unbridled , huge and humbling power that is the real deal.
I often wondered ,why it was so much easier for me to express my love and appreciation for people I barely knew than for those that were closest to me. Perhaps the closer you are , the more the expectations …the more the conditions.
In my journey to my centre, to my authentic self…I have slowly shed my expectations and my conditions.
I started loving me ,without needing anything to be changed, to be improved upon.
I started wholeheartedly loving me.
And then the miracle happened.
I was free now, to love others and be who I was born to be.
That light of love, shining in someone elses dark hour…carrying them through and then quietly slipping away as they learnt to find their own light of love within them.
Knowing that their lights had shone upon me too , with no conditions attached. That inadvertently , I was receiving as much love as I was giving away so freely …that beautiful love with no conditions attached 💕
Have the courage to look into the eyes of everyone you meet. Their eyes tell a story that their words often cannot.
Before that, have the courage to look into the eyes that stare at you in your mirror. Look into those eyes with love, with kindness. If you can do that, looking into another persons eyes becomes so much easier.
Sitting in meditation, the first thing that came to me was – in stillness, you perceive truth.
I was told, “Be still and know I am God.” So that was the first thing that came when I asked, “What is the theme for today?” And the theme was stillness.
Instead of being pulled outside in many different directions, it is about being still, going within, and recognizing the oneness.
The theme of oneness seems to be coming up a lot recently in the last couple of years. It has always been a subtle background theme, but now it is coming up even more intensely…..this seeking and realizing the oneness of oneself in the ” I Am”. This can only come in stillness, not when you are enacting your role in the world, not when you are flapping around trying to find solace or trying to control events, circumstances, and people so that you feel safe.
It is not going to happen then.
It happens when you come back to stillness, when you realign with the knowing of oneness on the inside. When you do that, everything outside rearranges itself.
Very often though, in times that feel chaotic or difficult, we try to desperately rearrange things outside of ourselves.
Instead of doing that, finding the discipline to go still, to come back home to yourself, and to be with yourself in stillness, is incredibly helpful.
Because not only does everything that is not the truth drop away, you are also able to receive the clarity that you need to act. You receive the guidance that you need…..to know what to do in this moment.
You don’t receive this guidance from anyone outside of you, because there is oneness.
Our very nature is creativity. We cannot help but create. However, we are either conscious & aware of what we are creating or not. That makes all the difference in what we end up creating. Whether what we create feels good to us or not……
When we create from our hearts…with acceptance and peace which allows our hearts to expand in Love…we find a courage that comes from deep within us to be authentic in our creation.
The authentic expression of our creativity …whether it is in our thoughts, our words, the choices that we make, the actions that flow from us….is what is aligned to how we were always meant to create.
When we fall asleep at the wheel, the mind takes over the creative process. This mind is driven by fear based conditioning by default. So everything we create from there ends up in sticky gates of worry, fear, guilt, shame.
We no longer see ourselves as creators in this asleep state, but as Victims.
Victims of our relationships, our circumstances and in fact everything. Victims do not have power. So they are dependent on external factors to help them feel better again.
Therein starts a vicious cycle of disempowerment and hopelessness. Until either we wake up to the power of creativity that lies hidden within us spontaneously or out of the desperation that arises from suffering as a victim.
The day we stop identifying as victims is the day we awaken.
Very often, as human beings, we have a tendency to drag our past or the worry of the future into the present moment.
And we do this so effortlessly because we are designed to move between the past, the future, and the present. Our minds can so easily travel between all three. But because the ego, driven by fear, loves drama, loves intrigue, and loves stories, our mind keeps dragging us back to the past or pushing us into the future. And we don’t realize that when we go into these stories……past thoughts, past righteousness, past narratives of how things have gone wrong, and worries about how things can go wrong in the future……we are simply perpetuating them again and again. This is not a new knowing….I have written about this many times in past blogposts too. However, it feels important to bring this up again today……the idea to break through all of our past suffering by simply choosing something better for ourselves in this moment. And yet, the human aspect of us, the mind that governs our human selves, tends to hold on to the stories. The mind says “No, no, if I let go of my stories, then who am I?” And that can feel very scary.
A lot of people self-sabotage because they are not ready to face who they are, or realise their highest potential. There is a quote……I’m paraphrasing……that says we are not afraid of our darkness, we are actually afraid of our light, of our highest potential.
And so we stay safe in the stories we have indulged in for so long: “He wronged me, she wronged me. This happened, that happened. This is why I am like this.” Therefore, we don’t free ourselves from the lenses that color our judgment in the present moment. We keep looking at people, the world, and opportunities through those lenses……what happened in the past, what was done to me, what is right, what is wrong, what I want, what I don’t want……which is again duality.
Right now, as humanity, we are being offered a chance to springboard……to leap out of these stories and move into a different dimension, a different feeling space, where we can choose joy. When I was speaking to a client, I was shown this beautiful shop. And it reminded me of something we used to do during COVID, when we would gather as a group and set intentions together. During one of those sessions, a spontaneous visualization came through……a shop. Every morning, when you wake up, you walk into this shop. And this shop has a past aisle, a future aisle, and a present aisle. Most of us are drawn to the past aisle……past thoughts, past stories that define who we are today, unforgiveness, resentment, and everything we have held on to. Or we hold on to perceived shortcomings from the past and see ourselves through the lenses of parents or authority figures. As we are now aware, so much of our subconscious programming was imprinted before the age of seven, and we keep replaying these programmes and create our reality on repeat, replay modes. Then we go into the future aisle, which feels like possibility. But most of the time, because we are carrying the past with us, it colors the future as well. We look at the future through the lenses of the past, and we see limitations. So we don’t even look at certain sections of the future, because we believe they are not possible for us. For example, if I have been told that I’m not good at sewing or embroidery, I may never even look in that direction. I will look at everything else, but I will believe that I am not capable of that. Similarly, someone who has been told they are not good at math may never explore that path. So the future aisles don’t open up……not because they don’t exist, but because our minds are closed to them. Now, when we walk into the present aisle, with the awareness that the mind is like a little child holding our hand, tugging us toward the past or the future…… We remember……we are not that child. We are the soul. We are the higher self. And instead of being pulled, we gently say, “Let’s just explore this aisle.”
In the present moment aisle, right in front of you, you will find peace, mindfulness, presence, joy, inspiration, expansion, inclusivity, kindness, awareness, bliss, breathing, slowing down, resting, loving, feeling loved, emotional regulation, and nervous system balance.
All of this is available to you……as long as you are not focused on the stories of the past or the worries of the future. And when you make the choice to come into the present moment aisle again and again, you begin to say, “Tomorrow, I’ll see about tomorrow. Maybe I’ll go to the past or future aisle then. That’s okay. No judgment. But today……what do I want to choose for myself?” And when we do this consistently, it becomes a habit to remain in the present moment aisle. And something beautiful happens. The future aisles begin to open up in ways we were not aware of, because we are no longer choosing through the lens of the past. And the past, too, begins to soften. It’s as though the shelves start clearing themselves. The stories loosen their hold on you. So when you revisit the past occasionally, you notice, “Oh, this is interesting. I used to see it this way. I used to feel so upset about this. Why was I so upset? I’m so glad I’m free of that story.” And that is when we have not only opened up the future to many new possibilities, but we have also released the hold of the past. Being in the present moment becomes pleasurable. It becomes natural. Because we begin to realize that the future is being created while we are walking through the present aisle. Sometimes, concepts like this are hard to understand, but when we see it as a visualization, it becomes easier. So instead of being pulled by the child into the past or the future, we can gently hold its hand and say, “Let’s see what’s here today. Maybe there’s something beautiful for us here. Maybe we can feel joy today. Maybe we can just have a picnic in the present aisle.” And from here, we create the future. It’s like magic. I wanted to share this today, and I hope it reaches whoever it needs to. It reached me too. The last few days I have felt a heaviness……perhaps my own, perhaps collective……and I needed to return to the present aisle today. I hope it helps someone out there as well. Sending you much, much love, and wishing you a wonderful, peaceful, joyful, inspired day.
To see a persons highest potential is not wrong…nor is it a waste of your time or energy. It merely means you are operating from a higher frequency and can see what is possible for them. In fact whenever you are in communion with them and you are able to see their highest potential you are able to hold space for them to step into this potential. The choice to do so or not is completely upto them of course. As it always is. Now here is the catch …if you are shaky in your own groundedness …then this holding of space can drain you out and make you feel you ” wasted precious life force energy ” in this connection …when you could’ve spent that energy on someone who was similiar to your frequency. So the idea is not to filter out those that do not match your frequency….it is to train yourself enough to stay in your centered frequency no matter what.
Another thing to always remember gently is that, as human beings, we are always evolving.
What we embody today is not always who we were. A lot of people extended us grace….gave us the benefit of doubt when we perhaps needed it. Maybe others held space for us and reflected to us, in their steadfast love or compassion a higher potential that we eventually stepped into.
For the empaths, creatives, sensitives , intuitives it seems to be time to step out of hiding into more visibility. This visibility is now required. It is not to do with fame or fortune or any of the old and outdated incentives of the world. It is more to do with your individual natural gifts needed now more visibly in the collective to help this wave of change that is underway.
There are older paradigms of ‘family’ that you are perhaps questioning or seeing differently. Feeling restrained, constrained or not understood. Or no longer understanding your “original” families . This restlessness you feel is not the sign to break away….. but to merge your older limits ( family ) to your newer family ( which is the whole world actually ). As you awaken to who you truly are you realise the interconnectedness of all beings and therefore you might feel more in tune with your ‘soul tribes ‘ rather than the families you were born into ( especially if they are still in older paradigms of fear etc ) but this is not a call to leave them behind. There is no freedom in that. It is about merging the old with compassion and gentleness into the new.
You are never alone as you do all of the above. There are fierce guardians behind the scenes who are protecting you as you navigate the changes.
Awakening cannot be forced. Healing cannot be forced. All of this happens as naturally and gently as a bud blooming into a flower…petals unfolding in the magical care of the Sun and the moon ( through periods of light and dark in your life). Be patient and trust your timing. It is divinely ordained
Nurture your inner child…your inate innocence, playfulness and joy. It is essential to keep this alive. It reminds you the most ,of your souls true essence.
You no longer need external validation. You carry your own inner knowing. And finally this beautiful message
The universe is always abundantly blessing us with life’s greatest blessings which remain so subtle that we hardly notice them…. these are often invisible, gentle and subtle like secret notes of love tucked into your daily lives.
Its almost as if the universe delights in playing secret Santa. 🤭☺️
I have never felt like I fit in this world. There are many things I enjoy about it and many that I don’t. But I have always felt as if Im on the outside, looking in. For brief intervals, I formed a world in which I belonged. That too felt temperary and fragile. Who am I ? What am I ? Does everyone feel this way ? Does everyone feel they do not fit in ? Or fit ?
A lot of my life has gone by, trying to feel that sense of belonging. Now I don’t try to do that anymore.
Im being true to what I feel.
Like I read just yesterday….only illusions fall apart when you are not trying to hold things together. What remains is what is ‘ real’. I feel a sense of “in between- ness”….. Like Ive let go of trying to hold ‘it’ together ….whatever that ‘it’ might be.
Im still on the outside, looking in….. but, it is no longer uncomfortable.
There is a familiarity with the feeling. A feeling that, if this is how it feels right now, then it is how it is meant to feel. When it needs to feel different, it will.
Maybe I belong on the fringes.
Or maybe these apparent ‘fringes’ are moments into which I can completely relax and immerse?
Maybe the immersion will carry me back to me. Where I feel everything….where there is nothing at all outside of me.
Once you begin to experience the liberation that comes with transcending duality, you naturally want to keep returning to that state. The peace, calm and clarity it brings become a compass, guiding the choices you make, not through effort, but through embodied knowing.
While this shift often unfolds slowly over time, the important factor that unlocks it, is awareness.
Most people remain caught in the matrix ( of duality ) simply because they don’t realize that anything else is possible. Our conditioning, within the matrix of right /wrong, success / failure, good / bad, is so deeply ingrained that we respond on autopilot, unaware that we are choosing from a limited perspective.
But once we realize this, a gentle yet powerful shift begins.
We start to expand our consciousness beyond linear thinking and into a multilinear awareness, one that sees the infinite possibilities that are available in every moment.
This expansion naturally softens our urge to choose this over that. Instead of grasping or resisting, we begin to stay centered. We witness rather than react. We discern rather than judge. Even what once seemed painful or imbalanced is seen in a new light, as an experience designed to support our evolution.
With this awareness, we are no longer trapped by polarity. We are liberated by presence.
A life well lived would be a life lived with authenticity — where love had been the norm. Where joy was followed with intention. A life that was lived close to nature.
Where loved ones and friends shared communal meals, laughter, deep discussions, and joy. Fireplaces, books, and long walks by the river or in the woods. Where grief and joy would be shared experiences. Where no one had to face their fears alone.
Where there were open hearts and no masks. Where laughter and music were always present. Where real food was cooked with deep love, and sharing a meal felt sacred.
Where movies were an occasional delight… sunrises and sunsets took their place instead. Where everyone spoke to each other with kindness and love, aware of the preciousness of the memories being made.
Where every moment was lived fully. Where the past and the future held no interest. Where time slowed down and birds sang through the day. Where stars shone bright in the sky.
Where we could all be creative in our unique ways and do what inspired us. Where we shared our gifts with each other generously. Where we celebrated each occasion with a song and dance until our hearts burst open with the joy of being alive.
Where there was no fear of death. Where we gathered together to celebrate both the comings and the goings with equal reverence and peace.
Where stories were handed down generations and no one was ever forgotten.
The “mind of duality” is being assassinated by purity.
Everything unfolding in the world — and in our seemingly individual lives — is merely happening to expedite our shift from the mind to the heart.
You will find that staying in the mind is becoming increasingly insufferable. It will no longer be possible, as it once was, to tolerate discomfort in the mind only occasionally.
Now, the suffering in the mind is being deliberately amplified, so that we may awaken to our true seat of consciousness: the heart — the gateway to Oneness consciousness.
As I type this, I see the heart as a beautiful, luminous network connecting to all hearts. Here is where we revolutionize this deep knowing, stepping out of the mind’s separatedness and into the heart’s connectedness.
We, as a collective, are waking up to this connection in our own unique ways. It is not easy for any of us at the individual level.
Right now, those who are aware of the sticky gates and traps of the mind’s illusionary games can deliberately choose to move into the heart — trusting that the mind is being rewired (a gentler way to feel into it) to play second fiddle to the heart.
It was always meant to be this way, but the mind was hijacked into the illusion of separation.
So, in this phase — which can feel scary and disruptive — staying calm, keeping the heart open, resisting the pull into fight-or-flight, anger, or judgment, and remaining open to connection calmly will help see us through.
It distorts your vision and your senses, to only allow in, what your mind says you can.
Let your mind be …. Simply step into your heart Which leads you to me Through a subtle navigational chart
Acceptance, peace, Love and Courage The map is fairly clear If you choose to surrender to this journey Then all that you’ve encountered so far….. seems only fair.
Forgiveness comes easy There is no more blame No victimhood or guilt and Definitely no more shame.
No yin or yangs No more duality No victims and villains In your new Reality.
Only the truth of me exists Which is really the truth of you.
You only need to surrender To this call inside of you