Creative ownership

When we engage with thoughts that bring us suffering, it is a choice we are making.
Therefore the onus of that suffering lies with us and we cannot seek to blame anyone or anything outside of us for it.

The solution is often rejected because it seems too simplistic and we love complicating things.

Stop engaging with these thoughts that take away your joy.

Stop making excuses as to why you cannot.

Stop being a ‘ victim’.

Stop playing ‘small.’

Nothing and Everything

Only when you truly feel satisfied in being nothing can you start to feel into the everythingness of all that you are.
Do not be dejected by how far you feel you still have to go. Remember there is no journey anywhere…you are already all of what you think you can be. You just have to remember it. There is no pressure, no time , no end game, no final result, no grading system.
It is all here in this now moment.
If you remember the start of this life’s journey…when you were but a child. Remember before the hurt and the cynicism…before even the fear and the anger. Remember the wonder , the joy and the awesomeness of everything you felt , touched, tasted and saw. Thats the closest you were to being nothing and remembering that you were everything.


“Some are just sitting it out , waiting for lives to get back to ‘ normal’. Such a big opportunity lost if thats all you are waiting for. ” Normal” was not working before, don’t you see this ?
If normal was working then this would not be so dramatic. This demand for change. There will be a new normal. But you have the gift of choosing together what this new normal will be. Now is the time to look within and see what truly matters to you in this blink of a lifetime.
Mortality is staring at you in the face for a reason. To remind you of the preciousness of this life, the opportunity you have to change things for yourself….not in any future life that you may have. In THIS life. To really dive deep and live deep. Not sleepwalking through it as you have been. To see what truly matters. Family, friends, humanity, love , caring , sharing , being kind, connecting with each other. Do you see how the race to accumulate things is so foolhardy when what you are going towards is an end to this life as you know it. Would you rather have held your loved ones closer, breathed in the fragrances, soaked in the utter beauty of this physical world you live in or would you rather be sitting on top of a pile of things that you claim as ” yours”. Is there such a thing as yours….do you get to take your pile? Reexamine life as you know it. Such a beautiful opportunity for you to do so. There are many for whom this is not that opportunity. They are too “young” in their journey yet and so this opportunity will come again when they are ready. For the majority of you, you have this chance like never before. Its like a big snapping of fingers right in front of your face. Why ? To awaken you. Shake off the illusion. Step into how it really is. Why are we interfering and causing this ? We are not. We have nothing to do with this. It is an opportunity that you have created and indeed asked for. We are stepping in to remind you that yes you have done this and it is a huge opportunity. We are cheering for you…all of you….to be wise in your decisions going forth from this. To choose love…to choose helping….caring and healing. It matters not one jot how you perceive yourself different . At this moment the need is to step into solidarity, creating the forward positive momentum from within humanity.
Indeed those of you who are more awake should be holding hands and holding those that are not and gently nudging them forward. Linked, all of you can do this. If you insist now on your own ‘ specialness’ , holding aloof in your own spaces…wanting to progress alone then you are not really awake either.
Do not lose this glorious opportunity we urge you. If you have been given a voice to unite, then use it. Set your trepidation and egos aside. It is ok.
You are not judged except by yourself. Let that go. Now is not the time. We love you and we are rooting for you. Its all ok. Always has been always will be. We know you cannot fully comprehend that right now and we will laugh about that together but for now believe us that it is all ok and always was. Don’t just bide this time away….really use this time to help yourself and therefore ‘ others’. “

Post script – Whats to come for the world is dependent on what each one of us chooses now. We are a collective consciousness even though we appear to be separate from each other. So the thoughts we choose , the actions we take individually affect all our realities…more than we realise. The good news is that ONE positive thought / action is way more powerful than plenty of negative ones. So the more of us that choose to be mindful and aware of choosing thoughts and actions of hope , faith and love …the more the chances of the ‘ future reality ‘ reflecting that.”

I still have to absorb it all. But the visualisations were very simple very clear.
Some of us too shy of our gifts
Some too egoistic about them.
We all need to set all that aside.
And join hands.
I saw a huge circle …holding hands and having lots in front of us ….walking forward …closer and closer to each other…taking along with our human chain others who were not holding hands …gently.

I think this is indeed the new earth they used to keep talking about.
All of us here are observing / experiencing it
However each one is experiencing it differently. The common factor is the huge waking up thats happening at different levels of consciousness. Like in the fairytale sleeping beauty.

Everyone is coming awake slowly.

Inspired action vs forced action

Different individuals have different roles to play. You must never feel that you OUGHT to be doing something that you are not completely flowing into. If it fails to light you up from within, whilst doing it, then it may not be what you were meant to be doing anyway.

Guilt is not a very good indicator of the path you are meant to walk upon.
Only joy is the true compass of that path.

Follow that joy. Like your own individuated unique GPS.

Do not let anyone guilt you into anything that does not feel like its coming from within.


Its not so much of what we SAY that matters really…it is more of what WE actually do.
No action , based in love , is too small to be taken. But be sure , that it IS actually based in love and not other stuff pretending to be love.
Pointing fingers at anyone else…anyone outside of us …is not based in love. No matter how right we think we are.
Fact of the matter is, there is no one true right. Each ones point of view is right from their own point of view. If we seek to only see things based on our own perception of it, then so much in the world will appear , to us , to be ‘ wrong ‘

True acceptance is only when all points of view can be viewed with equanimity.

As long as we rally against what we perceive as ‘ wrong’, we are not acting from our deepest , purest nature. We are a part of the Divine source and if so ..all of what we think , say or do is only met with love, isn’t it ?

We are EXTENSIONS of this pure , accepting, all loving energy.

So our deepest nature must be the same. In time, with awareness and experiences, the resistance …the illusion drops away…and then there is clarity.


Life continues to help evolve us , if we slow down enough to notice and take heed of the subtle urges that originate from deep within us somewhere.
The predominant theme for me at this point is the urge to let go …even more than I have so far.
Letting go of expectations , of ideas , of having a point of view, of showing up in a particular way.

Letting go leads to liberation because it allows me to accept whatever is showing up, in whichever manner it is showing up.

Letting go, at this point in my journey , feels to me like freedom from my own judgements , notions and ideas in such a way that is profoundly humbling. It is creating a space that I never knew existed.
An empty space.
A space which , when not filled up with what Ive let go off, is actually not empty at all …was never empty.

It was always full of love.

Love just……is.

Love and respect go hand in hand.

This used to be one of my strongest beliefs / conditioning.

Love in my eyes could not exist without respect.
Whilst sending Reiki today it was as if a lightbulb went on.

Love does not need anything else.
Love just….is.
It does not depend upon anything else.
It is mighty enough to stand on its own.
Needs no supporting emotions.
It envelops
It soothes
It holds
It covers
It inspires
It just …is.

When we start to think that love needs props, thats when we are talking about conditionality. And conditionality and love don’t go together.


It is ok to give away my bowl. It is also ok to not give it away.

Not all of us come here to offer merely what is inside our bowls. Some of us come here to offer our bowls as well.

After all, the bowl and me and the perceived other are all me …all extensions of the one.

It is the intention, behind giving away the bowl, that is truly important.

When the bowl is given because of an outpouring of love , or an overwhelming compassion or pure unconditional love or feeling of wellbeing, and when one knows on the inside that,no matter how many times the bowl is ‘given away ‘ with these pure feelings, it shall be replaced again and again and again and that no real loss occurs, then it is ok to give away the bowl.

On the other hand when it is given away with fear/ neediness / conditionality /wanting something in return… like love , approval, praise or respect, only then it is NOT ok to give it away.

Even so , it is not upto any of us to decide this for another.
Each one of us gets to decide this for ourselves. Each one of us is a unique individuated expression of the ONE. So what is ok for me, may not be ok for another.

It is ok for me to give away my bowl.

It is also ok for me not to.

I am learning how it feels both ways. I am learning when to give it away and also when, not to.

It is not upto me to judge whether or not the ‘ receiver ‘ is worthy or what their intentions are or how they perceive it.

This is merely the stumbling block. The resistance to oneness. There are no firm conclusions in any of the life themes we choose to experience. There is no ” The end”.

That is what makes this never ending journey so beautiful.


When we are gifted with empathy and compassion , we are likely to be more questioning of our own motives and intentionality. Therefore more prone to self doubt or self criticism.

The reason is, we feel so much empathy for another, that we tend to favour their feelings and wants over our own. This creates an unnecessary imbalance energetically. Also makes us more prone to getting depleted / have more imbalanced energetic relationships or WORSE, as a defensive measure , retreat into the ‘ safety ‘ of isolation.

As compassionate beings, with compassion being the way we are meant to connect to the world, it is not to our advantage to go into isolation.

Therefore, in order to prevent this viscious cycle
1) Really becoming self aware and therefore less doubtful of our own intentions
2) loving and honouring ourselves.
3) Not giving in to the urge to explain ourselves or change our behaviour to suit the world.
4) Still caring about people but not about their opinions
5) Not retreating but being mindful of our boundaries and not hesitating to be firm about them.
6) Knowing that when we love and honour ourselves, we are not only doing what is absolutely necessary for us but also benefitting others, as then they know where they stand ( so they are not tempted to ride roughshod over us).

Sidestepping suffering

It seems to me that a lot of our suffering is self inflicted.

As children , we start sorting out what we like or don’t like and we continue to label ourselves , others and situations.

When we step out of what we then expect from ourselves ( as defined by and restricted by our labels ) , we suffer.

For example, the label of being an introvert.
When we want the company of people and rather enjoy it , AFTER labelling ourselves as Introverts, we suffer because we feel as if we have not been true to ourselves.
It causes a conflict within. Where as, if we were to realise, that actually we have not been true to the LABEL and that having that label in the first place, is not being true to the unlimited nature of our souls…then we understand the root of the conflict and can therefore resolve it.

Similarly, when we extend this sort of system to others, we walk into suffering again. When people step out of the roles or characteristics that we have assigned them to, we are disillusioned and often feel let down.

When we further allow our conditioning to extend to how life ” ought to ” unfold for us, we slip even deeper into this quicksand.

The answer to this then, is to let life unfold as it unfolds.
To not judge it , label it or restrict it.
To let people show up however they want to show up and take it all in our strides.
To show up in our own lives authentically in every moment. Whatever feels right to us in that moment, knowing and accepting that whatever feels right in one moment may not feel right in another.
To not attach to any one particular version of any of it.
We then sidestep the suffering, whilst experiencing life fully.
We do not need to run away to the mountains to find ourselves. We can be wherever we are and still find harmony in it all.