I was born to love. I was born to give that love unconditionally. I was also born to receive that love unconditionally.
I started out by giving and receiving it fully…but as I grew, I also started noticing, how sometimes, the love given to me came with certain ,very subtle conditions.
As an adult, I realise , that that was me confusing love with approval or acceptance. True love …in all of its forms , is unconditional. It does not diminish with time , is not affected by moods, and definitely has no conditions attached to it. I came to associate ‘ love ‘ with hurt , with let downs, with pain.
I put up guards around my heart and became very ,very careful with who I allowed in and more importantly, who I gave my love to ,without worrying about how they could use it to hurt me. That was( ironically) me, putting so many conditions to that very love that I was born to give and receive freely.

As I grew in awareness, I slowly and painfully understood the difference between my limited , fearful concept of love and the real magnificient , unbridled , huge and humbling power that is the real deal.

I often wondered ,why it was so much easier for me to express my love and appreciation for people I barely knew than for those that were closest to me. Perhaps the closer you are , the more the expectations …the more the conditions.

In my journey to my centre, to my authentic self…I have slowly shed my expectations and my conditions.
I started loving me ,without needing anything to be changed, to be improved upon.
I started wholeheartedly loving me.

And then the miracle happened.

I was free now, to love others and be who I was born to be.
That light of love, shining in someone elses dark hour…carrying them through and then quietly slipping away as they learnt to find their own light of love within them.
Knowing that their lights had shone upon me too , with no conditions attached. That inadvertently , I was receiving as much love as I was giving away so freely …that beautiful love with no conditions attached 💕


Normalising Spirituality

Lets normalise Spirituality.

Spirit is who you ARE.

Whether you are conscious of it or not.

Spirit is the bigger part of who you really are.

Hence when you are aware of this truth, you are spiritual.

Reading religious texts or going to places of worship is not what makes you spiritual.

You already are that.

You do not need the holy beads, incense sticks, crystals and long robes. You do not need to talk or walk a certain way. You do not need to only eat or drink certain things. You do not need to “abstain” from human desires to be spiritual.

You are ALREADY that.

You do not need to travel long distances to commune with SOURCE/ DIVINE / GOD ( you choose the name- it all means the same)

You can commune with the Divine Source whilst seated on your toilet seat or in the park or in the middle of a traffic jam.

Look around you.

Look at the birds, the flowers, the trees, animals, other human beings. Look at everything.
Look into peoples eyes.
Look into your own eyes.
Tell me what you see.

Where and what and who is excluded from the Divine Source of all ?

You will eventually find the answer –

“NOWHERE, NOTHING and NO ONE is excluded from the Divine Source”

All is spirit expressed in different forms.

When you reach this ultimate truth about yourself and everything you perceive in your world, you will permanently raise your vibrational frequency.

Nothing will have the power to throw you off your balance.

There will be nothing that will affect your peace, your bliss.

You will walk this world with the constant awareness of source IN you and source OUTSIDE of you until even the IN and OUT merges and all becomes THE ONE.

Moving towards yourself

A natural reaction of your human aspect is to go into guilt and retreat in fear when you try to break away from ego / group consciousness.

Especially if those around you do not understand.

When they feel as if you are leaving them behind. When they protest or act up in order to make you feel bad and make you stay.

Treat all of this upheaval,  kindly and with compassion.

As you step more and more into your much bigger spirit aspect, all of these feelings of doubt, nervousness and guilt shall gradually drop away.

With alignment to your higher self, there is more trust, more peace, more clarity, more compassion.

It is SO worth losing everyone just to find your true self.

When you do that, the ones that are aligned to your highest nature find their way to you.

They vibrate at the same frequencies and become your new people.

It is worth the pain, the disillusionment, the heartbreak.

Finding your true self is worth all of it.


Just as there are different levels of bondages, there are different levels of freedom available to us.

The bondages that stem from the ego mind are desires for more obvious things…..name, fame, money, power, prestige and subtler ones for example, the desire to be accepted, honoured, understood, cherished.

As we walk into the truth of who we are, more and more, the easier it gets to liberate ourselves from the bondages.
We realise we need none of these bondages to be happy.
That to be free of these bondages gives us freedom and joy.
Truth sets us free.
Love for the Divine pales all else in comparision and when our eyes are set firmly towards the one true relationship – our relationship with God…..all else comes into clear perspective.

Satnam Satnam – sada Satnam
Japman Satnam sada satnam

” Chant oh my mind, the True Name “


You are meant to work as a cohesive being.

This whole life can be perceived as a game laid out, just for you.

The components of this game are the PERCEPTIONS of duality and time.

You come here and your purpose is to learn.

You learn through experiences.

Those experiences seem to happen in a linear fashion.

Some are perceived as good experiences and some are perceived as bad experiences.

You, as a soul, in a human experience, are operating at different levels of self awareness as a human and as a soul.

Your human and soul aspects are both who you are, but your consciousness shifts from one aspect to the other, as per YOUR FREE WILL.

So now what do you have in this delightful mix of a human experience ?

A perception of time (past, present and future)

A perception of duality (internally – spirit and human and externally – the world is perceived as separated from you and everything in the world is also perceived as being separate and individual)

Your mind awareness.

Your soul awareness.

Free will.

What is the aim of this game ?

” As above, so below”

The aim is to have experiences in duality, make choices that reflect your different levels of awareness and consciousness, and then be able to LEARN from those experiences.

Why does your mind have the ability to jump from the past to the present, to the future or anywhere you want it to go to?

The master is one that understands the real purpose of the mind.

He knows that his mind has the power to take him anywhere….and that he can learn from his seemingly linear experiences but can also remain detached from the suffering by using his mind to stay grounded in the present moment.

When we feel overwhelmed …it is usually because we are allowing our mind a free reign to do what it does best….travel to the past or the future and not remaining detached.

When we learn to use ALL the components that are present, together and cohesively, we can learn from ” past ” experiences and use the wisdom for ” future” experiences, ALL the time STAYING firmly rooted in our present moment.

That is why practising being in the present moment, keeps it simple and cuts the anxiety or feeling of being overwhelmed.

From my dads garden

Breaking a pattern

When you seem to be facing the same situations or patterns that seem to frustrate you or cause any kind of suffering, I have learnt that, it helps massively at that time

1) to be aware of the pattern re-surfacing

2) to pause before reacting……as that reaction will come from the subconscious patterns developed over time

3) to deliberately do something you have not done before. That includes complete inaction and silence as well.

This not only breaks the loop that you feel you are stuck in, but also gives you the understanding that you have more options available to you than you previously thought were available.


Counter uncomfortable silences with silence ….often we try to fill up uncomfortable silences with talking incessantly or with words…any words …anything to avoid the discomfort of the silence.
Sometimes this becomes a powerful tool of manipulation.

Disempowered empaths or sensitives, need to make sure everyone around them is happy.

This is not their responsibilty but somehow they feel it is.

As a sensitive being, you pick up on non verbal communication. When you sense that someone is not in balance ( angry, sullen, judgemental etc ) you go into an overdrive of trying to bridge the silence in a premature effort to make things right, all the whilst frantically trying to search within, if its something you have done or said or if there is something you can say or do, to make things alright again.

As an empowered empath you can stand in your own peace by realising that whatever someone else is going through is their responsibility to process, not yours.

So you are ENTITLED to be happy NO matter what someone else is going through. You are only ever responsible for your own joy, your own sense of peace, your own processing of your own difficult emotions.

As a disempowered empath, you feel you can use the same tactics of sullenness and silence to affect the happiness of those around you, not realising that not everyone is going to be affected like you are and also not realising how immature this approach is.
To control others through your silences is basically bullying and manipulating.

Knowing this, enables one to counter uncomfortable silences with a silence that is calm and centred.

All of the lower vibrations feel as if they stem from Drama somehow.

They feel more and more ” false”.

They FEEL real to those going through them I think, but that is only because they have not yet encountered the realness of the true emotions running within us at all times.

My mom called me a pure soul early this morning and my instant reaction was a guffaw !

Then in that half asleep state, I heard this in my heart, ” All souls are pure. There are none that are not pure. “
My mind instantly went into judgement, thinking of some that are ” definitely not” 😅

And gently but firmly my ” voice ” insisted that they too are pure souls.

” All souls are pure …to deny this is to deny that Source is omnipresent. To deny the purity of any soul is to go into separation again.”

The more we grow in awareness, the more we tune into what is real inside of us.

That we are made up entirely of Love.

That is the only truth.

The rest is false and therefore the more we grow in awareness of the truth of us the more we view anger, irritation, victimisation, and all else that is not Love and peace, as drama.

Real growth however, only occurs, when we recognise the ‘ drama’, and we also recognise having gone through the ‘drama’ stage ourselves and be able to feel compassion and understanding for all.

Love for all.

To see all as pure souls. No exceptions.

Trust in your ability to Surrender

Listen and tune into this message of love and of light- of the true nature of everything.

Everything IS LOVE AND LIGHT – often obscured by the shadows of the darkness you carry within you.

If you were to choose to let it go, it would be effortless to see the Light everywhere, even in places that you never expected to see it.

Holding on to the darkness is a choice you make ….daily…in every moment.

It is not foisted upon you.

No matter what it feels like, you CAN let your burdens down.

Eat, sleep, drink, breathe kindness and compassion- breathe in and out compassion. Slow down and steady your pace.

Be guided by spirit in your every moment to the truth.

The truth of you and the truth of all else.

If you could, but see this truth in everyone and everything- you would see light everywhere.

It would not be obscured by the darkness you are choosing to filter your sight with.

You CHOOSE your fears, you feelings of unforgiveness, your pet peeves, your irritations and your defensiveness, your judgements, your anger, your sorrow.

All these are the shadows cast by the ego part of you.

The spirit aspect of you, can choose to let these go in an instant if you do not insist on holding onto them.

Spirit won’t MAKE you do anything.

You cannot hurry, force, coerce your Spirit aspect. Your spirit aspect is vast like a mountain and yet gentle and wispy like a breeze.

Your human aspect is a tiny , delicate butterfly.

What must you do ?

Surrender and trust

Surrender to your divine spirit.
Surrender to its knowing
Surrender to its timing.
And most of all,
Trust in your ability to surrender.



I am all that you see
And all that you don’t.

The mist on your face
The waves of the ocean
Spring in all of its glory
And also the bleak winter storm.

I am

The lover who loved you tenderly
And also the one that let you down
All the teachers that ever taught you
And all the lessons that came along

I am

Every friend in your life, but also every foe
There is nothing and no one I am not
I am everywhere you go

I am the neighbour that you say hello to
And also the stranger that you ignore
Every rose that you pick
But also every thorn

I am the politician you vote for
And also the one you won’t
I am the gifts that you appreciate
And also those that you don’t

I am everything you love about yourself
And also everything you disown

Look now and find me
Everywhere you roam
And know finally
That you were never ever….


Our feeling of safety is determined by how solid our foundation feels to us.

However we feel our foundation needs to be rock solid and never changing. Our foundation can be the people we love , the relationships we hold dear, the ideas we have about ourselves and others,the ideas and beliefs we have, the way we see the world and so on.

We are also encouraged in building solid foundations and are told time and again how important the strength of these foundations are.

“Get a solid educational foundation/ marriage / relationships / belief systems/ traditions / value system “etc etc, and these are ideas then, that we pass on to our children along with the underlying fear of things shifting, changing.

Leaving them totally unprepared for the only thing that is true of every life – change.

So often we go into deep grief and fear, when we see our foundation is not as rock solid as we wanted it to be.

If we are, ever evolving energy, and everything that surrounds us is also energy, then our foundations are also just that.

Ever evolving energy.

So if we made friends with the idea that everytime we evolve and create a new balance where ever we are, then that is our new foundation and that our foundation evolves as we do, then we will never feel uprooted or upset or fearful of things / people/ relationships/ our ideas and beliefs changing in our lives.

We will learn to flow with the change.

We might even learn to thrive as we change.

All we need to do is, see the true nature of it all.


And embrace wherever we are.

On Death

I often wonder how we would LIVE, if we didn’t fear death ?

If we could discuss it as easily as we discuss life.

If we embraced it and celebrated it as easily as we embrace and celebrate each anniversary of every birth?

How would we LIVE, if we became besties with death ?

If the mere thought of it did not leave us quaking with the fear of loss.
If everyone we knew, started to change the way they viewed it as well and supported us in celebrating this incredible journey.
Not only the beginning or the end……. but the entire journey ?

What if we all cheered for every soul that lived and with whom we had the privelege of this life experience ?

Cheered them on to another experience…with love and gladness in our hearts ?
Tears in our eyes, yes, because we would miss them in their physical form, but with so much love washing over us ?

How would we LIVE, I wonder, if we loved Death as well as we love LIFE ?