You do not need to know how to love.

You need to simply know that you ARE Love.

You do not need to be taught something you already were, before you assumed all those layers of identity on top of the pure light of love that you are.

Love is what you are.

Not what you say and not what you do.

Yes, it does show up in your words and actions because anything that you are, will be expressed by you, but it is already what you are.

You need to peel back the layers of what you have been taught about love, to find the pure state of love inside you…just like you have to peel back on the layers of what you have been taught about God, to find God within you.

Sit inside yourself, in awareness.

Start to notice all the feelings that arise around this energy of Love.

Love feels like a gentle expansion.

Love feels in alignment with anything that leaves you feeling pure and fearless.

Expanded and light.

There is no stickiness or urgency about it at all.

There are no “needs” that arise out of it.

All needs are instantly fulfilled before they even arise.

It feels complete in itself.

It is all encompassing and needs no conditions fulfilled.

It brings peace, harmony, joy, fulfillment, expansion, hope, faith, devotion, stillness, steadiness, fearlessness, clarity, courage, acceptance.

You have become adept at identifying your personality.

Now practise identifying yourself, as Love.

From love arises all these other beautiful states that you then start identifying and trying to define as Love.

But Love just is.

You cannot define it or explain it with terms and words.

It cannot be contained or limited to a way of being or a definition.

It is indefinable, indescribable (even though, that does not stop all seekers of it from trying ceaselessly to define it and quantify it)
Can you be at peace knowing that it is merely to be embodied and expressed but its essence is way beyond your mind’s capacity to understand or make sense of?

From –
A conversation with my guides

A subtle theme that is showing up to be acknowledged and worked through or perhaps just be released is that of subtle bias.

As we walk the path of self realisation, with more awareness and consciousness, the first things we start to release are the more obvious conditioning and belief systems we have carried, that cause us to go into separation and judgement.

These are relatively easier to let go off as they cause huge suffering and pain within us, because of the huge amount of resistance they create.

However as we continue to grow in awareness, finally the more subtle blindspots start to come to the surface.

The subtle bias comes in when we unconsciously judge others when they don’t think like us or they show up in ways we would not.

We have to be very finely tuned in to our own energy body, in order to notice these biases, either within us or in those we are interacting with.

Even when we think we are very accepting and non judgemental, we still have these very subtle judgements. We may not say these out loud or even
” think them out loud”, but they affect our energy nevertheless.

In order to refine ourselves, to align ourselves to our highest nature….these need to be seen and let go off.

Sometimes we may pick up on others subtle biases too and if we have had a history of moulding ourselves in order to fit in to be safe, then we may unconsciously adjust our behaviour so that we are ” approved ” of by those having these subtle biases towards us.

When we notice this habitual instinct of protection, thats the time to go inwards and align again to our truest nature.

To have the courage to not be affected by another’s subtle bias and still be able to be ourselves and more importantly be able to still keep our hearts open and loving.

This does not mean that we ignore the information that is being brought to us about not only our own bias (which we have control over and therefore can release) but also that others are subtly directing towards us (which is not our business and should not be taken personally at all).

This information helps in discerning what we want to keep in our experience and what we choose to minimise, all the while not falling into the vicious cycle of going back into judgement.


Simi

“Get over yourself “

Whenever this phrase is used, it is used in a derogatory sense maybe, to intimidate or to ” put someone in their place.”

However, I feel, in this phrase lies the key to liberation, if we look at it with a different perspective.

As a naturally shy child and somewhat introverted adult, I had always felt safer merging with the background.

Second guessing everything I said or did, in front of people I did not know.

If I spoke up, I felt as if there was a spotlight on me and it made me stumble through the sentences that had initially seemed quite sensible or funny in my head before they came out of my mouth.

Over the years, Ive learnt to “get over myself ” and this has made it so much easier for me to be me, not give it a second thought or go into self judgement and crippling self talk.

It has set me free to do the work I do and connect to people from a place of authenticity and honesty without needing validation or encouragement.

I rarely need to tell myself nowadays to get over myself, but its been quite the journey to get here.

“Get over yourself” to me initially, has meant, loving myself enough to not listen to the judgemental voice in my head that became louder and more judgemental as I grew up.

It has meant, finding the courage to let go of inhibitions that were never part of my true nature, to begin with.
It has meant letting go of the false ideas of who I was supposed to be or ” should ” be, to really just be who I truly was, all along.

It has made it easier for me to relax into my true self and that is such sweet liberation.

It requires zero effort to be who you truly are, when you finally get over yourself.

Be you as much as you can be you. I think I heard that dialogue in the movie “Lorax” and it has stayed with me since. 

When I relax into ” getting over myself” Im getting over my ego, my personality to reach inwards to my true soul self.

The magic of operating from the soul self is that the soul operates from ” oneness”

When you operate from being everything you are no longer afraid of being nothing.

“Follow your inner moonlight; don’t hide the madness.”
― Allen Ginsberg

“To shine your brightest light is to be who you truly are.”
― Roy T. Bennett

“When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everyone will respect you.”
― Lao Tzu

“You were born to stand out, stop trying to fit in.”
― Roy T. Bennett

“You are you. Now, isn’t that pleasant?”
― Dr. Seuss

Over the last few days, some glimmer of understanding is waiting to birth itself.

As usual, there is a sense of wanting it to come…wanting to understand it.

Me- What is this that I need to understand…let me put it together and make sense of it all.

Inner voice – What are you feeling ?

Me – emotional and eager to understand.

IV – Then allow the feeling.
Be emotional.
Do you really have to understand the emotions ?
Is not sitting with questions beautiful?

Can you not sit awhile with just the questions…the unknowingness of it all ?
There is immense beauty in this pregnancy of not knowing all there is to know.

This mystery that never ceases unfolding and unravelling.

Is that not why you are here ? Is this not why you choose to forget dear ones ?
Because you love playing with this unknowing ?

Yes, by all means,  ask the questions….. but sit with them too.
Do not rush into needing them answered.

Has not the divine timing of it all always astounded you ?

How you never fail to understand what you need to understand at just the precise moment you need to understand it ?

As I did yoga this morning….I was shown a  record player ….I think the newer generations call them vinyls?

In my childhood, they were called Long play records I think.

These were meant to be played at different speeds, depending upon whether these were the big or small ones.

If we played them at the wrong speed, they would sound so silly.

Either too fast like Chipmunks or too slow, like sloths.

Now the pace at which we are meant to move ( slow mindful pace ) and the pace at which we actually move is so vastly different that its all creating a discordance which we cannot understand.

We have gotten so used to this fast pace that when we do allow ourselves to slow down, there is a sense of guilt or restlessness. A feeling that we are not being ” productive ” enough.

When we let all that conditioning go and move in accordance with the pace that we are internally guided to, how easy it is to be ” in the flow ” and ” at ease “.
Still doing what needs to be done, but without the unnatural pace and unnecessary stress.

For the longest time I carried a belief deep in my subconscious, that life somehow balances itself out.
So, for example, if I had had a childhood that did not feel good, I would then be exempt from going through a bad time as an adult or vice versa.

Ive met several people in my life’s journey who have also had similar beliefs. 
“LIfe has its ups, but then it also has to have the downs.” is one such belief.

This is one of the knots we need to untie and let go off.

It is our beliefs that make life show up in whichever fashion it does.

I choose to believe now that life is good ALL of the time.

That all is well, all of the time.

That the Universe has my back ALL of the time.

That no matter what is showing up, it is coming from a benevolent Universe designed to help me evolve and grow.

It is okay for me to choose ease.

It is okay for me to want to live with simplicity and joy with a heart open at all times, to love.

It is okay for me to consciously and deliberately be discerning as to what I allow into my experience.

Its a relief to let go of a belief that was rooted in conditionality and duality and one that was causing me to create a life that was sometimes ” good” and sometimes “bad”

Life is what it is.

I choose ease, joy, simplicity, love, enthusiasm, hope and faith.

Each day we are given countless  opportunities to ” see ” from a more expansive perspective.

Whether its people in our lives, things that are happening to us and around us, our work and our play.

We repeat dysfunctional cycles only when we are stubborn in seeing only the way, we have always “seen”.

When we shift deliberately to a more expanded perspective, we see things we could not before. This might change the way we act and react, thus breaking old, jaded and dysfuntional cycles that no longer serve us.

My guides said to me , “Have you ever wondered why when you read the same books, you get different messages sometimes ? Its not because the book has changed….it is because YOU have. So let life do what it does, you become conscious of how you are perceiving it.”

And therein lies the doorway to creating something different.

Something more aligned to the creative, everchanging force that you are. “

Everyone in our lives has a reason they are here. Even those that we think of as our ” button pushers ” 😅.

Those that love and uplift us, those that don’t , those that inspire us and those that show us what we do not want to emulate.

Each one has value. They are merely helping us evolve.
So how do we consciously choose to look at everything and everyone from a higher and more expanded perspective ?

Choose Love.

Love expands.
Fear contracts.
So choose love over fear.

You have a unique light that is so needed in the world. I say this so often because Im reminded of this so often.

We all need to step into our full power and embody our lights.

So we can be of service to the whole.

This is possible only when we know ourselves from the expanded perspective.

For this, we need to meditate and go within.
Often.

As much as it takes.

There is no work more important than this.

Much much love

We need to start, not only talking about what we are great at,  but also where we still struggle and where we are still very much a work in progress.

Especially as adults.

So the ones looking up at us (children and those whose lives we somehow influence),  do not feel so scared when they slip up (as we do) and feel like failures (as we did), so unnecessarily.

Life is a series of mini evolutions for us all through life experiences.

None of us are born knowing how to perfectly ace these life experiences.

Its not a series of  exams.
Its a series of experiences.

These experiences are made much less painful if we accept that they are just that….experiences.

And that we are not meant to do them ‘ perfectly’.

As adults, lets talk about our vulnerabilities and our experiences in a wholesome way ( not leaving the unsavoury bits out ) so our kids and others being influenced by us, do not feel they have to aspire to inauthentic levels of perfection.

None of us are failures.

We are all merely going through life as humans.

This is not an easy feat.

Why not celebrate the fact that we are here, doing this together? 

Celebrate each others wins and be there for ourselves and others in grace when the going gets tough.

There is a difference between choosing “the path of Ease” and the path of “avoidance”.

Choosing the path of ease is a deliberate, conscious, mindful way of living life with a peaceful, centered, grounded approach.

It includes being very discerning as to what you want in your life experience, but not getting involved in the stories / drama of the choices.

The path of ease is not one of cowardice.

  It is of mindfulness.

Its basis is simplicity , purity of intention and joy.

The path of avoidance seems sometimes, like its the path of ease. But only on the surface.

It is merely a postponement of dealing with, what one perceives as being “difficult stuff.”

This causes a heaviness in the energy field, as avoidance merely means  that something that is perceived as being difficult, is not being dealt with.

This has nothing at all to do with what is outside of you ( as always).

If there is a reactivity inside,  to an external source, it merely means something inside, has not yet been healed.

Choosing the path of ease, one gets the courage to face challenges with courage, simplicity and faith.

If this becomes a way of being, then all of life is approached with ease.

This does not mean it is all easy, but it definitely means that no matter what comes your way, you approach it with simplicity, clarity and peace.

Dream message

I saw all of life was designed as a game, almost like an obstacle course.

There were special effects and props that made it all look scary at times but I knew in my heart that no matter how perilious it appeared, it was designed in a way that we could all reach our goal.

All we needed was this knowing that it was designed for us to win.

As long as we focussed on staying calm and took a step at a time, the special effects would not bother us.

We would not get scared.

Unconditional love is what motivates us to play this game.

Reaching that part of us that is unconditionally loving.

Connected to all there is.

Also in my dream I saw people falling …but I also saw they were unhurt and were trying again, knowing better the second/ third time around.

I realised that instead of telling them what to do or not do, all I needed to do was focus on crossing the obstacles in a mindful way and by doing so, the ones behind me were automatically learning how to do the same.

At the same time, seeing so many ahead of me, gave me immense faith that if they were able to, I could do it too.

The inevitability of reaching where I needed to reach, made me feel so much hope.

From my dream, I also understood that we cannot know and understand everyone around us and the only actions we have any control over, is our own.

Focussing on our path with love is what we are here to do.

❣️
I was just sent this beautiful poem that reinforces the message of my dream 💖

“A seeker asked the dervish one day,
“How did you find holy ways?”

He smiled, “I know what’s in the Koran’s heart,”
A mysterious answer, a wisdom to start.

Curious, another asked to unveil,
“What secrets lie within the sacred tome?”
The dervish’s reply, both simple and grand,
“Two pressed flowers and a friend’s loving letter in hand.”

Scriptures guide us on life’s twisted road,
Focus and quiet calm the soul’s heavy load.
Yet, living experiences of love reveal,
Our intrinsic wholeness, our radiant zeal.

In holy texts, we find wisdom’s seed,
But love’s embodiment makes our spirits proceed.
The dervish knew this truth so divine,
Embracing love, our true selves align.

May we, like the dervish, find our way,
Through love’s gentle touch, each passing day.
And when asked about life’s sacred text,
May our answer be love, in every style and context”