We need to start, not only talking about what we are great at,  but also where we still struggle and where we are still very much a work in progress.

Especially as adults.

So the ones looking up at us (children and those whose lives we somehow influence),  do not feel so scared when they slip up (as we do) and feel like failures (as we did), so unnecessarily.

Life is a series of mini evolutions for us all through life experiences.

None of us are born knowing how to perfectly ace these life experiences.

Its not a series of  exams.
Its a series of experiences.

These experiences are made much less painful if we accept that they are just that….experiences.

And that we are not meant to do them ‘ perfectly’.

As adults, lets talk about our vulnerabilities and our experiences in a wholesome way ( not leaving the unsavoury bits out ) so our kids and others being influenced by us, do not feel they have to aspire to inauthentic levels of perfection.

None of us are failures.

We are all merely going through life as humans.

This is not an easy feat.

Why not celebrate the fact that we are here, doing this together? 

Celebrate each others wins and be there for ourselves and others in grace when the going gets tough.

There is a difference between choosing “the path of Ease” and the path of “avoidance”.

Choosing the path of ease is a deliberate, conscious, mindful way of living life with a peaceful, centered, grounded approach.

It includes being very discerning as to what you want in your life experience, but not getting involved in the stories / drama of the choices.

The path of ease is not one of cowardice.

  It is of mindfulness.

Its basis is simplicity , purity of intention and joy.

The path of avoidance seems sometimes, like its the path of ease. But only on the surface.

It is merely a postponement of dealing with, what one perceives as being “difficult stuff.”

This causes a heaviness in the energy field, as avoidance merely means  that something that is perceived as being difficult, is not being dealt with.

This has nothing at all to do with what is outside of you ( as always).

If there is a reactivity inside,  to an external source, it merely means something inside, has not yet been healed.

Choosing the path of ease, one gets the courage to face challenges with courage, simplicity and faith.

If this becomes a way of being, then all of life is approached with ease.

This does not mean it is all easy, but it definitely means that no matter what comes your way, you approach it with simplicity, clarity and peace.

Dream message

I saw all of life was designed as a game, almost like an obstacle course.

There were special effects and props that made it all look scary at times but I knew in my heart that no matter how perilious it appeared, it was designed in a way that we could all reach our goal.

All we needed was this knowing that it was designed for us to win.

As long as we focussed on staying calm and took a step at a time, the special effects would not bother us.

We would not get scared.

Unconditional love is what motivates us to play this game.

Reaching that part of us that is unconditionally loving.

Connected to all there is.

Also in my dream I saw people falling …but I also saw they were unhurt and were trying again, knowing better the second/ third time around.

I realised that instead of telling them what to do or not do, all I needed to do was focus on crossing the obstacles in a mindful way and by doing so, the ones behind me were automatically learning how to do the same.

At the same time, seeing so many ahead of me, gave me immense faith that if they were able to, I could do it too.

The inevitability of reaching where I needed to reach, made me feel so much hope.

From my dream, I also understood that we cannot know and understand everyone around us and the only actions we have any control over, is our own.

Focussing on our path with love is what we are here to do.

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I was just sent this beautiful poem that reinforces the message of my dream 💖

“A seeker asked the dervish one day,
“How did you find holy ways?”

He smiled, “I know what’s in the Koran’s heart,”
A mysterious answer, a wisdom to start.

Curious, another asked to unveil,
“What secrets lie within the sacred tome?”
The dervish’s reply, both simple and grand,
“Two pressed flowers and a friend’s loving letter in hand.”

Scriptures guide us on life’s twisted road,
Focus and quiet calm the soul’s heavy load.
Yet, living experiences of love reveal,
Our intrinsic wholeness, our radiant zeal.

In holy texts, we find wisdom’s seed,
But love’s embodiment makes our spirits proceed.
The dervish knew this truth so divine,
Embracing love, our true selves align.

May we, like the dervish, find our way,
Through love’s gentle touch, each passing day.
And when asked about life’s sacred text,
May our answer be love, in every style and context”

I think all of life is a rite of passage to embodying our purpose with fearlessnes.

All rites of passage go through the ” ignorance is bliss ” phase and then the encountering of challenges that have the power to transform us or the power to subdue us.


We start out being more connected to our inner voice, but over time we allow the noise in the world to dim that voice inside of us. Afterall the noise outside is loud and the voice inside is quiet and does not insist upon being heard.

It respects free will.

Coming home to ourselves is therefore where we start to let go of the outside noise and turn inwards.
As we listen inwards more and more, our courage returns.

By this time we have first hand experience of our dashed expectations and broken dreams (in most cases) and so whilst we are aware of all that can and has gone ‘ wrong’, our inside voice tells us that it is all ok as everything that happened was within the Divine plan.


And if we listen to that wisdom within us we have nothing at all to fear.


So we start to build faith again

This is when we can start to really tune into our purpose with faith and awareness of the support and love with which we are held.


However, as human beings, we can at any time be seduced by the illusionary drama playing out and can forget to listen inwards to this quiet calm voice.

That is when we step back into fear.

Fear is how the illusion perpetuates afterall.

What are you choosing in this moment ?

In my waking state, if I feel Ive accomplished some level of embodying surrender and going with the flow, in my dream state, Im being shown how much control I still subtly exercise over this experience.

That, whilst my understanding has shifted, the letting go by my ego is still very much a work in progress.

I learnt from my dream state, that I am still stuck in some of the sticky traps of this human experience.

It is what it is.

There is work to be done …and Im realising that the only way this work can be done, is to remain in awareness of my thoughts and observe my reactions, as they spontaneously arise.

That is the only place I can truly grow.

The rest follows.

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What is enlightenment and can we achieve it without suffering?

At a certain level of consciousness, we feel enlightenment is a state of ultimate knowing.

A state in which one has achieved a permanent zen state.

In my experience, all of us go through a series of transformations and enlightenment in parts.

This includes going through periods of darkness / emptiness / voids/ dark nights of the soul whatever you want to call these periods.

Every time we bring something that was in the darkness, into the light of conscious awareness, we are ‘ enlightened ‘. We can either do this because of the suffering we go through which causes us to seek answers within us ( because try as we might, we will never find the answers outside of us ) OR we can be active seekers and be proactive and connected to our intuition and therefore understanding the life themes and what we are here to  experience/ remember without the suffering.

In fact a lot of the suffering is something we bring upon ourselves because of the thoughts we create in our minds around what is happening.

Life just is.
It is neither good nor bad. We classify it as such.
As we go on this path however, whilst we become more discerning, we lose the urge to judge and classify stuff into ” wanted ” or ” not wanted” , ” good ” or ” bad”


Enlightenment ultimately , is all about seeing life as a series of experiences and not needing to classify parts of it as suffering.

It is remembering who we truly are completely and being free of the illusion playing out.

Last night, I fell asleep pondering upon the power that words have.

Pondering upon the energy that actually creates words.

Contemplating on how when we are no longer in this world, words are no longer needed to communicate.

I woke up, aware that I was being dictated a poem, ( as it often happens …Im very often taught through poems ) so I grabbed my phone and started typing it all down.

The poem was simple and beautiful and spoke about how to remain free and impertubable in this world, full of words.

It spoke about the power that words have upon our experience here in this world and how we can be swayed and bound by them.

It spoke about remembering that our ultimate destination is that beyond any words.

And it spoke about always remembering our true nature whilst we live in this world.

It was a beautiful poem and right at the end, as I signed it with my name ( as I usually do) my finger in my sleepy state, hit a key that wiped out the entire poem.

For an instant, I was dismayed, then I got the joke and the powerful lesson that I was being taught.
Theory and practicals in one shot ….and how I laughed.

I woke up laughing at the sheer absurdity of me trying to hold on to the very words that the poem told me to remain free from.

So sharing the joke and the powerful lessons with you, my dearest ones who are on this journey towards surrender with me.

Even our words do not belong to us.

So what else are we holding onto and not surrendering ?

Ive often noticed that when Im going through a particular challenge or have noticed a particular theme in my life, and I happen to discuss it with my tribe, very often they are also going through something similar or a different version of the same theme around the same ” time”.

There are also those that tune into the energy of the collective and forecast the main themes we are all going to experience. 

This makes sense only when we truly  understand the connectedness of all beings.
The different water particles of the same wave.
At various points of the wave, so experiencing the wave slightly differently but experiencing it the same way, largely.

This has profound implications when we feel into this connection at a level of our knowing rather than an intellectual concept of the” Collective consciousness. ”

A  few simple yet profound implications of this understanding are that if we awaken deeply to this connection and to the oneness, we are not alone and whatever each one of us contributes to this consciousness can help uplift all.

Whatever we understand and learn about ourselves and how to navigate this journey, individually, is being contributed to the collective field of consciousness.

So all those who are ready to receive this understanding, do so effortlessly or with very little effort, depending on their own readiness.

We are all born ready but through the interference of our minds we create blocks to this readiness.
The more we awaken to our oneness the more we automatically rid ourselves of ideas around separation and individuality.

This then makes us powerful influencers of the collective consciousness or the light bearers of this journey.

This is not at all a call to the ego to feel important. That is a sign of separation, hence a part of the illusion.

When each person awakens to oneness,  he or she operates with the knowing that being in the service of ” others” is merely being in service of the self.

At various stages of this awakening we interpret this differently too. At some stages we feel an urgency to awaken another and express this in different ways.
At more advanced stages, we know that embodying the change is powerful enough to affect change in the collective.
So the urgency leaves us.

At other stages we lose the concept of the individual self completely.

All the last remaining barriers come down.

And we feel complete trust and faith, knowing the only ultimate truth.

” I Am”

In the work that I do, Ive observed that

” You can take a horse to water, but you cannot make it drink”.

In fact I have applied this to myself and found it to be true.

I do not ” realise ” anything until Im good and ready to realise it.

I can know all the theory there is to know about a subject, but not really truly comprehend it unless its ” time “.

What is this ” time ” ? The ” divine timing “?
Why does it not apply equally to everything we want to know or progress in ?

Divine timing is the right time for us.
Uniquely, individually, perfectly in relation to all there is.

As you meditate, contemplate, observe, introspect, learn and based on this you refine your thoughts, your ideas and beliefs and then change your actions in this world, you experience divine timing.

The universe is in perfect sync for you to evolve in your own unique way.

Based on the much larger plan that you can not comprehend whilst you are in this human body.

So instead of questioning , rebelling , getting stuck in control issues ( trying to make the universe bend to your will), why not just relax into faith.
Knowing how beautifully it is all orchestrated for your highest evolution.

Knowing that all you need to do is what you truly CAN do.

Prepare yourself in mind, body and soul, adjust your sails , ride the waves and keep God as your guiding force.

Simi

As you go into the energy of acceptance in your heart,   your ego diminishes simultaneously.

It is after all your ego that generates the resistance to any experience in the first place.

As that happens, there is more room for your spirit which is already in surrender and flow.

The first time you consciously allow this without running away or distracting yourself or going into fight or flight, it can feel really uncomfortable.

However, when you get to the other side of the discomfort, having gone through it, there is suddenly a feeling of lightness, of a deeper, older heaviness having lifted, of peace, of expansiveness.

Thereafter, your body remembers this sense of ease so it no longer takes too long to allow this discomfort and subsequently,  “discomfort” takes on a purpose and new meaning and therefore no longer feels as uncomfortable.

It becomes easier and easier to go into acceptance and this ease then translates into inner  peace.