MORE ROOM FOR LOVE

Less is more !

I think I finally get this ! I thought I understood it and agreed with it for a long time, but I realise now , that it was at a very superficial level.

As a little girl , I was given the honour of dusting our drawing room ( living room as it is now called ). I revelled in the task and was so careful not to break these delicate figurines and showpieces that my mom and grandma had collected from around the world on their travels.
Each piece had a story attached to it. I was so proud of our home and its beautiful things. I grew up and moved into my own little home when I started working. I also started gathering my own ‘ beautiful things ‘ as I started to travel…things to remind me of the places I’d travelled to and the memories I had made.
Countless photographs , gifts , clothes from our wedding , my boys favourite stuffed toys , their first blankets , photo frames , dishes handed down in our families..the list is endless.

I was carrying tradition forward.

I have moved from home to home , even countries, carrying my ever increasing load of memories. On my journey within, I have unlearnt so many many things. I think one of the latest things I have unlearnt , is the love for ‘ things ‘. I woke up one day with total clarity about this. I looked at my things and for the first time ever , saw clearly that they were just objects. I was no longer attached to these or even to my memories.
The only thing that really mattered anymore ,was this incredible feeling of clarity and love.
I proceeded to de -clutter my home. I realised that the most precious memories are deep in my soul and as for the ones I have to look at objects to remember , maybe were not worth remembering anyway.
I gave away bags and bags of things to people who would use them or needed them, way more than I did. Once I had given away ‘ sentimental ‘ items , the rest was child’s play.

Now, not only do I have way less to clean , but it struck me as a happy, happy thought that my home and heart have more room for love đź’•

ROLE MODELS

As parents , we are role models to our kids whether we are conscious of it or not. They emulate what we do , not what we say.
Rigidity, being stuck to ideas and ways of being , a refusal to change ones viewpoint is all duly noticed and then imbibed.
Change is the very essence of life.

Learning to adapt , learning to think differently , keeping an open mind
and more importantly , an open heart …now these are things to pass on to our kids.

Ive been the parent that sticks by the rules, that refuses to think differently from what was learnt ,in the form of values , traditions, food ,culture, fitness , relationships , religion etc !

In the name of conformity , of fitting in , of being one with the people that surrounded me.
When I was that parent , I raised a child that refused to think outside the box, did not know how to , a child who was fearful of any changes in his environment, fearful of stepping outside any lines , fearful and anxious about expressing his truth.

Somewhere down the line, thankfully I changed.
Therefore my kids did too.


I am no longer fearful of being different, of sticking out like a sore thumb , of greeting new experiences and new people without fear and with instead an attitude of curiosity and gratitude.


Learning , forever learning !
My children watch me try new things, do new things, learn new things. They watch me step out of my comfort zone again and again and they learn to do the same…..faster and better than me!

I wish we realised that, how we choose to live our lives , speak our truths impacts our childrens lives to such a great extent. We get to raise heart healthy , loving , kind , adventurous, adaptable human beings or we get to raise robots. The choice is ours.

A message from me ….to me

KINDNESS OVER RIGHTEOUSNESS

Kindness over Righteousness
These words came to me suddenly one day and seemed important so I wrote them down.
After that I have become aware that a shift is required in life….from righteousness to kindness. We are taught righteousness in various forms through our childhood and adulthood …this is good..that is bad…you must do this…you must’nt do that…and on and on until it becomes second nature to immeditately classify everything and everybody you come in contact with , into neat slots of good and bad..right and wrong etc etc.

Doing this …our minds and hearts are restricted and cannot grow into the full and natural capacity they have of awareness and love. Not only that , but we also cause a lot of our own suffering with a mindset like that.
‘Unlearning’ is one of the most important ideas I have learnt on this path. Unlearning what does not serve me anymore so that Im free to learn what does.
Every time one chooses being kind over wanting to be righteous …makes your heart a little bit free-er to love and grow.

A message from me ….to me

TAPPING IN TO YOUR OWN WISDOM

There is a difference between conventional wisdom and true wisdom.
The kind of ‘ wisdom’ that is handed to you, by society, parents, teachers , religions etc sometimes makes you uncomfortable deep within.


Then that is not for you.


The wisdom that reasonates deep within…that you feel like you always knew this and now recognise it …is the one that is for you.
So nothing needs to ever be conventional.


For example …conventional wisdom might require you to be expressing yourself with animosity or judgement or hate towards ‘ enemies ‘.
Your source / God consciousness knows there is no such thing.
So it would be uncomfortable doing that.
It will feel better when you act from a place of love without conditions.
Tune in to what ‘feels’ right .

Only then are you on the right path. If it ‘ feels ‘ wrong ..then its not for you.

THE EVOLUTION

PART 1 ( INVISIBILITY)

I am tired of being a turtle.

Carrying everyone I love on my back.
Tired of being the peace maker …being diplomatic and smoothing feathers that are forever in the danger of being ruffled.
Tired of being a soldier….stepping gently through a minefield…being on guard all the time….to keep the peace that is so precious to me.

I love peace …I love quiet…I love the freedom to be me.
But I put all that on a waiting list. For those that I love.
No one asked me to do this. Not one of them put it into words. Yet here I am believing its my duty and feeling awful guilt if I don’t step up.
Im done. Im done longing for that quiet forest. Done yearning for that cool sea breeze. Done fighting to protect people who don’t have the faintest clue Im fighting for them. Done carrying burdens that are better off being put on the sidewalk. Done pausing my life. Im done.

Part 2 ” The puppeteer “

I am a home maker. I manage my family. Ummm I think I do rather well. I behave in a certain way so I get the desired outcomes from them. I hold each one’s string in my hand. It is after all , for their own good. I keep them away from trouble. I know what trouble is , I know whats best for them. Better than they do. What do they know? They are merely puppets. I mould them , I take care of them , I make sure they are never hurt. Why ? Well because I love them , don’ t I ?

My life is perfect.
So what if I have to watch not only each step they take ( to avoid them making mistakes of course , duh ! ) but also watch my own .

Because you see, it is a huge responsibility to manage them.
I cannot take a step without analyzing what it shall trigger in them. After all if I have the guts to be myself ..it might give them ideas…they might want to get some guts themselves. ( Shudder )

They are all perfect… as is my life. We all say what we should, we never step out of line.

I have a list of behaviours or key words to use in different situations. I know the responses each elicits. I use psychology , reverse or otherwise.

It works.

If it does’nt ,well, being sarcastic, or autocratic is always something I can fall back on. Worse scenario ever, well, I can always squeeze out some tears.

Part 3 ( Introspective )

What if ,one day, I acted on a crazy impulse and left it all behind ….and faced the world just as I am ..no layers …no masks…no pretense…just me…..raw …..damaged, but purely me ?

I think the day I did that , my soul would finally be set free..to love ,to enthuse , to be miserable , be joyous …to be fully and completely what ever I needed to be in that moment.

I think that day I would finally know what it is to breathe.

Part 4 ( Liberated )

I throw open the doors and windows of my home to let the sunshine in and the shadows out. To let whatever comes in freely and go out freely…..no restrictions, no control , no worrying, no tug of wars.


I give myself the freedom to be me…whatever is me ,in the moment….and my loved ones the freedom to be them , whatever they are, in the moment.
Ah to finally breathe…to experience the unconditionality of it all. The love , the joy unhindered and blossoming under the sun and fresh air that fills my home and my heart.

GOLDEN BUZZER MOMENTS

Golden buzzer moments on talent shows ! When a participant is awarded the golden buzzer, the entire audience jumps and dances with the joy of it…the judges included. The faces are such a beautiful sight to behold.
Such a beautiful celebration of our inner most instincts.

Those moments are special and so very magical !

The reason they reasonate so deeply with most of us, is because, that is truly who we are at soul level.
Unconditional, loving , giving beings, who revel in each others joy and success, who feel the euphoria of lifting someone up and feel uplifted ourselves in doing so.

Imagine , if we were to realise that the world is a stage and we do not have to ever go to a talent show to feel this incredible magic. It lies dormant within us at all times.

That in lifting , inspiring, encouraging ,cheering on, loving ourselves and others, we get to feel the same euphoria at any given time.

That our whole lives can be a series of magical moments…..just like the golden buzzer moments💜

THANK YOU FOR THE MUSIC

” Thank you for the music ” by Abba
Ive been getting this song in my head every time I do reiki and today I woke up humming it, even though its not a song I know well. Ive always loved other songs from Abba but not this one.

It struck me that my higher consciousness was probably trying to communicate through my subconscious ! As my mind is kept so busy that I don’t consciously open up to communication .
So I looked up the lyrics and reading them, made me smile. Ive always loved Dr Wayne Dyers quote, ” Do not die with your music still in you ” and it seemed to apply to what I was feeling.


The last few days , Ive again felt a deep conviction that I will not ever feel the urge to create cakes like I used to ( I was a passionate cake decorator for almost 6 years until last year). I been feeling a slight sense of loss with that knowledge.
Now, as I hum this song, I realise we are singing the song we are meant to be singing at any given time.

So nothing is lost, as long as we don’t die with ‘our music still inside of us.’
In different circumstances , sometimes our “song ‘ changes …sometimes, what we need to do in life ,to express who we are and how we touch other lives , changes.

It is a continuous evolution.


As long as we keep singing , ( expressing ourselves and our gifts for making a difference in the lives around us ), it does not matter.

Life is supposed to be fun , not a job to be done.

Its never done and you are never finished. So why not have fun and sing your song.


A message from me …..to me ❤

THE ILLUSION OF SEPARATION

We humans, are funny beings. We think our thoughts are so real.

We take stances , positions and sides based on our thoughts. We are willing to slay anyone who opposes them , with harsh words, cynicism and physical acts of violence.

Our thoughts are not even our own.

They are shaped by our beliefs which come from conditioning….of families we are born into, of the religions ,of the society we live in , of the country we feel we are citizen’s of, of elders and companions, who are AS deluded by their thoughts.

Some of the roots, of why we feel the way we do , go back even further.

We are completely unconscious and react based on these too.

If we could only learn to stop a moment before acting and reacting…we would become aware that BEHIND the voice in our heads that is loud, insistent, aggravating , defensive and offensive, there is a stillness. That stillness, if explored further, reveals who we really are.

A part of the One. Connected to each other as one.

The thought that” peace should be initiated by anyone else other than ‘me’ “, is also , therefore an illusion of separation. After all, there is no one else.

Only the one.

PERFECT MATCH

You are understanding at a deeper level that you can only ever strive to be a perfect fit …for you !
No one else !
And the beauty of that is, that when you are truly ,truly naked of all the masks and cloaks and are just simply yourself…you realise that you shine the brightest without those protective , deceptive coverings ……and that there was NEVER any need to hide behind cloaks and masks that you thought might deem you acceptable in different peoples eyes. The truth is…..they can only see you at the level that they see themselves…they can only love you within the limits that they set, to love themselves.
It was never about them. Its always between you and you đź’–

THE JOURNEY BACK

All of the things, that happen TO us and AROUND us , are a call to come into balance …to keep coming into balance.
Everything that happens to us and around us, causes emotions and feelings within us , which give us clues and hints, as to what our divine source ‘s intention was, to start with.
This whole life’s purpose, is to come back into alignment with the divine source of creation from where we originated and deviated.
To see and feel the intention of creation from the same point of view as the creator.
Like an artist who shows his work…

The deep desire of an observer, to see and understand the creation ( painting ) would cause the observer to try and get into the head of the painter, in order to understand the intention and thought behind the painting.What was the thought behind the creation ?
The more we desire, as human beings, to understand the purpose of creation….the more we look at, not only what happens to us at the surface…but deeply within…to try and understand the intention behind…and with each little understanding , we come more and more into balance or alignment and move closer and closer to who we were meant to be.
All of this ( good and bad ) was created FOR us to do that. The day we get that , we stop classifying anything that occurs as good or bad , and simply view it as an opportunity to understand further, come into balance and come more into alignment with the creator or Divine source. The ultimate destination is achieving the complete unity from whence we originated. ALL of us, are on this path home. All of us will get there , sooner or later. It is a given.