“It is a result of all our past decisions and actions that we are all individually here in the particular circumstances that we are.
Yes there is an onward progression ( mostly) in the sense that the soul is growing and expanding. It can’t help but do so, in fact. However that does not mean that it has to progressively be placed on only more abundant backgrounds or in more powerful roles. That is the egoic way of looking at it.
The soul never decides its incarnations, based on these things. It focusses on growth and experiences that will enrich its soul and those experiences can very well be experienced as a beggar on the streets and do not require a soul to be born into wealth and comfort.
In fact, some souls choose “discomfort” again as old souls, to see how they grow again at a deeper level when faced with the same cut throat competition for perceived limitations that they once faced as young souls.
Like a child who goes back into the same junior class to see if he indeed knows and is sure footed with its basic sums. There is a new enjoyment and experience to be had with the same experiences at times, as the soul has grown and experiences these things differently even as the soul perceives them completely differently.
The attachment to material desires is less and therefore the fear is considerably less, so the soul perceives what it did not before.
So it is not necessary that the soul progresses in terms of human advancement as it advances spiritually. There are souls who can go right back to where they began, if they feel they need the same circumstances to try again …….remember, time is a linear concept only for you.

It is possible for a soul to go back to any age simultaneously as this experience of the earth at this stage is happening. Whether its early ages or the millenium….it is only a concept of consciousness and consciousness can go wherever it feels fits its growth perfectly.”

The knowing came that we can actually go back to being anything we want to be, based on what we want to experience.
Increasing levels of wealth , comfort and power are not taken into consideration unless they serve our purpose to act as the perfect condition to grow in experience. They serve as being backgrounds to our growth so almost like actors choose their backdrops or costumes.
As souls these things matter to us , not at all.
So some souls that feel so ahead of their times , may indeed have experienced being ahead of their times in certain lifetimes.
Einstein , Nostradamus….such souls may have experienced life in what we perceive to be the later stages of the earth and then been born ” back in time ” because they wanted to experience certain life themes that would come from such a circumstance of them having advanced inner knowing. They might also be inspired to help be catalysts of progress and advancement for a huge number of younger souls or the younger soul world.

Back and forth or forth and back.
It matters not.

In whatever we decide to do, we affect the fabric of the universal consciousness as it is not separate from ours.

When we as parents, extend our love and approval to our kids only when they bring out their best behaviour or their most socially acceptable behaviour and reprimand them or show them we are disappointed in them when they behave in a way that is not acceptable to us, we do them a great disservice. Parents who exclusively paint a picture of their children of being exclusively great at everything, with an underlying urge to reinforce the same ” good ” side of their kids forget that we as human beings, have a whole range of feelings / emotions. When only certain feelings are acknowledged/ responded to / celebrated/  honored we give our impressionable young children the message that certain feelings are ” no good” and cannot be shown.

We teach them, through our conditionality,  that certain things that they are and feel are not acceptable to us and by extension, the world. That they are wrong in feeling or being a certain way.

So when your child DOES feel these things, as they inevitably will, they try and suppress these feelings or instinctive ways of being …because they feel guilty or ashamed.

Often this shows up as dysfunctional patterns of passive aggressiveness, anxiety , disempowerment , manipulation, baby talk , victimization and other unhealthy expressions of their pent up emotions.

Working our way backwards, what must we do?

Trust the innate wisdom that is present in all of us, including our children. Tune in to our own guidance and drown out the outside noise. Then gently guide your kids to their own inner guidance whilst keeping them centred and safe.
Showing them through our own example that it is ok to not feel ok and its ok to feel all sorts of emotions.

Teach them how to navigate life, using the emotions that come up , as important guiding nudges in the direction most suited to them individually.
That is the best thing we can do for them.

It is the highest form of Love.

Its strange how Im confronted with a different aspect of learning about boundaries with my kittens.

Cats do not heed commands , requests , pleas ….any of it 🤣
Any cat person will tell you that the worst possible thing you can do is shout at or frighten your cats in order to discipline them. It is , in fact , the best way to alienate them for life.
So the usual accepted methods using fear as a tool do not work. In fact , they completely backfire on us.

Our cats have personalities…one is scared of everything and the other is slightly bolder and curious. What they both respond to, is a kind, calm and loving tone.
We are told by experienced “cat humans”( those who love cats and understand them😄), that we cannot force our cats to adapt quicker or feel at home with us any quicker than they are ready to do so. Some cats take a year! The only thing we can consistently do is give them a safe, loving environment where they can experience consistent kindness and love ( consistent being the operative word )

It is not as if cats do not display undesirable behaviour….most days when I forget to turn my tissue boxes over, I find tissues torn to shreds all over the living room or the sofas.

My beautiful leather chairs get scratched when they feel the need to scratch inspite of the scratching toys we have got them. Once when we were trying to train them into using the new litter box and had taken away the old one suddenly , Artemis would pee on Kians chair or her own bed. We had to bring back the old litter box , keep it side by side with the new one and had to patiently wait till they learnt how to be comfy with the bigger one.

All this would have left me infuriated and frustrated even upto a year ago. Now strangely, I feel that they are here to truly teach me the power of unconditional love and the letting go of all ( things and ideas )that I held onto so dearly.
My mother is getting upset about my chairs getting scratched from all the way in Delhi( because she knows how fondly I selected them and they are her favourite chairs to sit on when she is here with us) , and all I can feel is amused and somewhat detached, all the while feeling intense love for them.

I am learning from this experience , how to extend this unconditionality to my relationships with my children and indeed everyone.

Fear has its place…when souls are yet driven by it and are motivated by it. To be motivated by and driven by love…has a different feel to it.

A sense of liberation.

Devote your mornings to learning , to your own expansion, to your growth.

Every challenge is actually a disguised opportunity to grow. This is why we are truly here. We never came here to be stagnant.

Your mind, if controlled by you , can lead you to conscious awareness of the vast resources that lie dormant, within you to overcome anything.

If left untamed, it holds you by the hand and leads you down a crazy “merry go round” of fear and doubt.

Your wisdom lies still and undisturbed inside of you, waiting calmly and patiently for you to still yourself enough to finally be able to perveive it.

Its always within your reach and with it , all of the resources you might need to overcome the challenge whatever that challenge may be in that moment.
Because you see, in this world of duality, a problem CANNOT exist without its solution.
If a problem exists, you can be very sure that the solution lies with it too. You just have to reach the stillness within to perceive it.

ME: JUST COME HOME TO YOURSELF.

Me: Just come home to myself? Is it as simple as that ? What about all of those things I mentioned? The learning ? The doing ? All of it ?!

ME : JUST COME HOME TO YOURSELF

Me: So it IS as simple as that ?

ME : Yes it is.

Me:  No running around , no ” to- do ” lists , no panic , no stress? Just go within? Will I find what Im searching for ?

ME : Yes indeed you will. For what you are searching for lies not outside of you , but within.

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Before I came to Singapore, I started this journey when I read one line someplace which made such an impact that I wrote it in my Cathay log book and afterwards in my recipe books.
The following is the gist of what I understood.

Your destiny is not carved in stone.
You can change your destiny AT ANY GIVEN MOMENT.
You can do this by recognising God within everything and everyone.

Which means

1) all happens FOR you, not against you …including the seemingly bad stuff. That is when you recognise God in everything in your life and you go forth in faith that all is ok and taken care of, for you, in your highest good.

2) it also means that when you start to recognise God in everyone you encounter, you treat everyone with a love and respect that maybe you overlook right now. The key here is that by treating people right , with love and humility, you change your own physiology and energy body.

YOU are the one who has the power of changing everything in a moment of this realisation.

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You are a channel. Be a channel. Allow the love to flow through you to wherever it needs to go, uplifting you and whoever is in its wake.
Be a reflection of Source.

Ever present in every situation and reflecting only LOVE.
Taking out all of the stuff that hinders this receiving and channeling.

The clutter …of expectations, fears, worries……removing it all and being a clear, clear channel to receive and connect.

Allow life to be a source of delight, compassion and inspiration through you.
In being a channel, you become one with Source and everyone else you come into contact with. It is a beautiful way to be.

I invite you to consider this …

1) The onus of making and maintaining relationships lies with all those in those relationships equally. Therefore you never need to overcompensate for anybody else. They do their bit and you do your bit. If they do not do their bit then be aware that you are worthy of better and have the courage to either address the imbalance or walk away.

2) Any relationship, in order to be successful, needs to be a fairly balanced one , with no one person giving too much or taking too much. There should be a fair exchange of energy in order for the relationship to thrive.

3) If YOU like YOU…then you will no longer be bothered about anyone else liking you or not. If you approve of you , then you no longer need anyone else’s approval or validation.
In fact, if you yourself do not like or approve of yourself, then you cannot expect anyone else to genuinely like or approve of you.
You are, at all times, unconsciously sending out a radio signal which tells everyone how you feel about yourself.

Think about it for a minute.

Aren’t you able to tell when someone is quietly confident and happy to be in their skin?
Aren’t you able to sense when someone is needy , underconfident, insecure or overcompensating?

4) You do not ever need to worry about what another person is thinking about you. What is really important is ,what are you thinking about yourself? Do not reason out what must be going on in another persons head. It is never possible for you to do so with any degree of accuracy. There are just too many denominators !

5) When certain relationships sour, and if you have tried with a genuine authentic intentionality to make them work, then accept gracefully that maybe it is time for those relationships to end. Bless and forgive yourself and the other in the relationship and let them go.

6) If you remain in a balanced state in your relationships, not expecting too much out of yourself or others, not feeling overly responsible for anyone elses joy and knowing that they are not responsible for yours, then the relationships will be of a much better quality and will thrive.

Its not like the ” suffering ” aspect or the ” pain ” aspect of the human existence ever goes away. As the soul evolves through lifetimes, the suffering aspect which served as a catalyst for growth, understanding and expansion in the initial part of the journey, is now no longer needed as much.
The soul then starts to evolve for the sake of growth, expansion and the yearning to be home or in complete alignment with the Divine.
The events , relationships etc that caused huge suffering still occur, but no longer have the power to draw the soul into their drama.
The soul is less and less affected by the drama.

The path is smoother, not because there are no longer any rocks on it, but because the souls attention is no longer on the rocks or their avoidance.

A conversation that played out in my awareness, just before I awoke a few mornings ago.

It was so lucid that I remembered it and woke up to quickly type it on my phone

“To remember or to stay within the confines of the illusion is always a choice we make. At any given point we can choose to awaken or to stay asleep. Just like no one can be hypnotised who is unwilling to be hypnotised, no one can stay in this illusion unless they want to stay.
Question – Does it bother God / creator / Source if we choose to dilly dally and take our time and not stay on the path of remembering?
Answer – ALL paths lead to remembering . Some sooner, some later but as ” time” is a non issue, and ” experience ” and ” understanding ” is all that matters , do you think it would ” bother ” God/ Creator/ Source ?
Question- Are spirit guides also God ?
Ans – Yes
Question – what about rocks ?
Ans – yes
Question – grass , trees everything?
Answer – There is NOTHING and NOBODY that is not God.”