True self confidence can never be generated by anything outside of oneself. Not through physical appearances, not any measures of success or knowledge acquired. You can be utterly gorgeous to look at and still feel as if you are not enough in some way or another and that robs you of your confidence. You can be a professor and know all there is to know about a particular subject and yet feel as if you are lacking knowledge in some other aspect of life. Ask yourself, were we meant to know it ALL , or BE it all ? Visualise all the pieces in a puzzle. Each one separate does not really make sense but together it creates a complete picture. If even one of those puzzle pieces were to go missing ….the entire picture would be incomplete. Thats how important it is for the piece to be exactly who the puzzle piece was meant to be.
Self confidence never comes out of external standards of perfection. It comes from a quiet place deep within. It comes from a place of contentment. It comes from knowing that you are enough. That in your own quirky way, you complete the picture.
Slowing down in no way means inertia or lack of enthusiasm. In fact, it means the exact opposite. Where you slow down enough to really savour , enjoy and be super enthusiastic and ALIVE to all that is showing up.
Like a slow walk, where you can notice every little detail…the beautiful perfect bark on the trees, the bird song , the way the sunlight filters through the trees , the dewdrops , the sound of contentment, the hugs , the feels , the taste , sounds , smells everything. Heightened ….all of it heightened.
You are a channel. Be a channel. Allow the love to flow through you, to wherever it needs to go, uplifting you and whoever is in its wake.
Be a reflection of source.
Ever present in every situation and reflecting love.
Taking out all of the clutter that hinders this receiving and channeling. The clutter …of thoughts expectations etc…removing it all and being a clear, clear channel to receive and to connect.
I got this profound feeling that the love that truly transforms one forever is the immense love for Source and the one that Source has for you. It is the greatest love. We all know at some level that that we love God and that we are loved in return . We just don’t allow ourself time to rest in that knowing. __________❤
“Where do I look for Source / God ? “
“Where do you think Source is ? “
“Everywhere I look ! “
“Yes and you feel that tingling excitement just saying that, because even though it is plain as day …you are just realising it at another level. The potential…the excitement of searching for and finding your greatest love in everything that you can perceive. Your greatest love is not out of your reach as you perceived earlier. There is no separation through distance or time or space. It is in the very space that exists between you and all else that you perceive. Look with fresh senses. BE ‘ in love’ because that is exactly true. Your greatest love lies in everything and everybody. You just need to ALLOW yourself to feel it. Source is the very energy that powers you and everything else. The one that envelops you and uplifts you and holds you. Allow yourself to feel the magnificience of this love. The magic of it.”
“It sounds so exciting but my innocent love for God as a child , with that complete faith……..I do not know how to retrieve that” ———–‐———————❤
We start out knowing and loving ourselves completely and knowing that we are deserving of this greatest love. As we go along, we get hurt , start doubting our “lovableness” and start to protect ourself by shutting out the sensitivity to any emotions that can potentially hurt us.
But then a selective shutting down is not possible. As we refuse to feel the depths , we cannot possibly feel the heights.
The key is to ALLOW ourselves to feel again. All of it.
Another theme suddenly sort of locked into place today for me. Until you learn a theme completely, it keeps showing up in different aspects in fascinating ways so that you understand it in all of its nuances.
When others lean on you and it starts to overwhelm you , the only reason it does that is because you feel that…
1) you must fix problems for them or cheer them up or be their strength as you have in the past.
2) you feel the weight of their expectations to do so (whether or not they expect this of you )
3) you do not project your own vulnerabilities to them and always try to sort out your own problems by yourself, so they forget that you can be vulnerable too.
4) You build up the reputation of being the ‘ fixer’ or the ‘ calm one ‘ and you feel the pressure to fix stuff for them.
5) and sometimes you discover that the only reason you want to quickly fix things is because you simply cannot bear for them to be not fixed.
They bring up old childhood fears of broken-ness. You cannot bear the drama, so it is in the abject fear of any drama that you hurry to set it right even though you may not have caused the drama in the first place. You have carefully maintained a cocoon of gladness or positivity but it is not impenetrable and often those that are closest to you can easily invade your cocoon with their imbalances and misery. The intent behind your need to fix everything is that you don’t need to deal with the drama. That intent is not good enough to keep you in balance. The only way is to first understand that all dramas are NOT your responsibility to fix. Each one of us is responsible for our own paths and journey. Each one of us faces the consequences of the choices we make. Why do you feel responsible to fix the consequences of all those choices , even though most of them are not yours in the first place? The second thing to understand is that most of the times people are not even wanting you to fix their problems for them.
They just find your ” presence ” and ” compassion ” enough.
To get them used to you giving them solutions is counterproductive and disempowering.
Whenever you want ‘more’ of anything in your life…you are in a state of NOT being completely present in your NOW.
In relationships, in success , in wanting fame , time ,health, money….. the ‘ more ‘ that you want will NEVER be enough. These are human desires. As souls in a human experience we all have these desires…of wanting love ,health, attention, fame , fortune etc etc. It is perfectly normal for us to have these desires. However when we pursue these desires, thinking that they are the ultimate giver of joy in our lives, we find that no matter how much we have of these, it is never enough. These desires and their pursuit do not allow us to be WHOLE as we are then feeling incomplete in the not having of these. When we are not whole we are in a state of imbalance.
We will not be joyful UNLESS we find satisfaction in the NOW moments. Afterall, how much is enough ?
The secret is to do what you love to do for the love of it….for the joy of it. The secret is to find complete satisfaction and deliciousness in every moment, of your life.
When you start to focus with appreciativeness of your life in every moment…you start to receive joy without being in pursuit of it at all.
It comes to you. In small miraculous unexpected , beautiful , magical ways.
All of these different things that you do whether its Reiki , breathwork, chanting or quiet meditation , you are basically achieving the same end goal. Which is achieving different states of consciousness or awareness. Awareness can go inwards or can be directed outwards and either ways when you ‘ focus ‘ your attention in this manner , you access parts of your own awareness or brain that you would not otherwise.
They are merely different approaches with the same end goal.
Chanting is a dynamic form of meditation ( focussing ) while sitting down quietly, is a gentler and more passive form of meditation ( again focus ), Reiki takes you into deep relaxation and helps you achieve the Alpha or theta levels of brainwaves.
The common factor being focus. The ability to , in that time , shed all distractions and concentrate your attention to one thing.
That brings you the ability to shift things in your reality in a lot of subtle ways. Therein lies the power.
Chanting utilises the power of the vibrations of the sounds that you make whilst chanting and also serves to help you to go within or achieve an altered state of mind …a more expanded sort of awareness. You use MORE of your brain either ways. Music has vibrations also so listening to certain music can bring about the same level of awareness. Mindfulness is another way to achieve the same. And that perhaps is the most effective and yet the most overlooked. When we understand what mindfullness is , then you are able to meditate 24×7.
Because it is then that you understand that meditation merely means to focus.
And by focussing you are able to achieve higher and higher levels of awareness Then you can meditate whilst cooking , cleaning , sleeping , eating , being with your family etc. It is being FULLY PRESENT IN EACH MOMENT with a gentle awareness It helps bigtime as then it cuts the unnecessary crap and one learns to unfold with life. Not go through peaks and pits . You become steady in your vibrations and are better able to observe your emotions and therefore better your reactions till they align to the highest vibration of you.
Your soul is not attached to any of the emotions , you experience as a human being. Your soul is pure love.
Emotions are what we experience as humans, in order to experience life living through us. Emotions are like the guiding impulses, which guide us as to our innermost nature. Of being limitless and unconditional love As far as the soul is concerned, each emotion is equally important. There is none that the soul is attached to.
Each one of us has a very unique soul blueprint. Each factor like soul gift , soul origin , level of understanding and rememberance etc contributes to making an individual who he or she is.
On top of that , each soul carries its own fears , faces its own unique challenges etc and has either done so for a few lifetimes ( young souls ) or has done so over many lifetimes ( old souls).
So many factors therefore contribute to how a person shows up in their life. We can only strive to understand our own journey and even that takes a lot of digging inwards…a lot of introspection and honesty.
We cannot even begin to understand another persons journey / stance in life etc based on what we see. We can only conjecture and even that will never be close to the truth of their journey.
So it is best to understand this and realise that the only ‘ truth ‘ you need to focus upon, is your own. How you show up in your own life is the only thing that you should really be concerned about.
For example imagine two different people who are very involved in always being there for their friends and family. Always there to lend a helping hand , always sharing and caring.
Looks similar but consider this . Lets say person “A” is gifted with love/ compassion as their souls gift and person “B” has a gift of truth which means that person “B ” gifts shine when she expresses her truth.
Lets further conjecture that ‘A’ has had a smoother childhood , with parents that have been supportive and kind. Also she has reached a higher understanding of herself as an older soul. Person B , on the other hand , has been abused and rejected in her past lifetimes and her soul carries the fears of rejection and abandonment. Her parents have been kind but been souls who have been fearful of stepping out of their comfort zones . So when person B tried as a child to express her truth, she was suppressed in subtle ways. She was told she must only wear certain clothes , behave in a certain way , not say whatever came to her mind to say as it was not society/ family / convention approved. So when both of these people show up as loving, caring and always the first ones to help their friends…the background of why they do it may be completely different.
A is showing up to lend a helping hand because that is who she is at soul level. That is her truth. B is showing up in the same way but because she is compensating for her insecurities…and as a way to counteract her fears of rejection. It is not who she truly is. So she is in the dysfuntional aspect of her gift of truth as she is suppressing who she really is in order to get acceptance. That is how one persons truth can be another ones dysfunction.
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